SIGNS OF A CHEATING SPOUSE
After having been a Jersey City, New Jersey Police Officer for close to thirty-five years and then a Licensed New Jersey Private Investigator after having retired you become well aware of the concept of “Gut Instinct”. Federal and New Jersey Courts have a myriad of settled case law that restricts police officers acting on “Gut Instinct” (for good reasons), however, in my experience on the police department and as a Private Investigator, I have found that “Gut Instinct’ is often right.
There is nothing more disturbing then when a “Gut Instinct” that your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating on you, this feeling begins to overwhelm you. It goes something like this; you have suspected for days, maybe weeks. Something is wrong or off between you and your spouse, and you’re beginning to wonder if maybe they might be…. NO! That’s not possible. Other people have affairs, not you two; what you have is special. Then again there was that thing last week, and when you brought it up, your spouse twisted it around as if YOU were the one with the jealousy issue! “You’re just being paranoid–you’re crazy for thinking like that!” they said. Still there’s that nagging doubt in your mind, as a Private Investigator in New Jersey I have had clients describe all of these feelings with me.
Here are some of the signs of a cheating partner. These behaviors are only indicators of a cheating spouse and are not absolutes! If your spouse has one or two of these behaviors, and there is a legitimate reason and a mutual agreement (such as you two talk about it and agree to try to lose weight…and they’ve gone a little obsessive about it), these signs do NOT prove infidelity. But when you observe several, or maybe MOST, of these behaviors, your marriage may be in trouble! Again, let me reiterate that these behaviors are only indicators of an affair.
Sign 1- When you see lipstick on your husband’s shirt or strange hairs on their clothing or in the car.
Sign 2– Gut Instinct:
- The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
- Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
- You find intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that are gifts for someone else and have not been given to you.